Tending the Ache: Grief at the Second Gate
A residential 4-day retreat at Well of Mercy
Hamptonville, NC
June 4 – 7, 2026
“Seek not love, instead
seek and find all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.”
-Rumi
There are places within us that have never known love—parts of ourselves we learned to cleave off in order to be accepted, fragments wrapped in shame, buried in silence, or held in contempt. These exiled aspects of our being often show up as addictions, depression, anxiety, a lack of aliveness and vitality, and other persistent aches calling for our attention.
At Tending the Ache, we will journey into the Second Gate of Grief, tending to the parts of ourselves that have long been cast out. Through expressive arts, ritual, and embodied practices, we will cultivate the medicine of compassion, gently welcoming back what has been lost. Drawing upon Internal Family Systems (IFS) and communal witnessing, we will soften the barriers to self-love, allowing warmth and acceptance to reach the places we have long kept in the shadows.
Join us in this sacred space as we listen, tend, and begin the slow work of reclaiming wholeness, while being held by the nurturing embrace of the Blue Ridge Mountains. This retreat center, a place that feels like home, offers an intimate and welcoming environment, perfect for the Second Gate’s deep and sometimes tender work with childhood wounds. Nestled on acres of beautiful land just outside of Asheville, it invites us to reconnect with the earth and our own roots, providing the grounding we need to heal the parts of ourselves that have been forgotten or shamed. With space for just 20 participants, this retreat offers an opportunity for personal transformation within a close-knit, supportive community, where compassion may flow freely and every voice may be heard.
Over the course of the weekend, we will explore:
• Personal and community ritual
• Breathwork and body-centered practices to deepen our trust in our emotional and body wisdom
• Therapeutic writing, inquiry, and small group work to assist in opening to our stories of loss
• The role of shame in grief and learning how to meet it with compassion
• Befriending our outcast and exiled parts, welcoming the fullness of our grief experience
• Practices to cultivate our capacity to be with our experience in a way that is spacious, curious, and heartfelt
As we practice the courage to be with the authenticity of our hearts, we enhance our capacity to embody a vibrant sense of aliveness and compassion. The beauty of this work is its capacity to expand into our communities and the world. This is a form of soul activism and what we are called to embody in this critical time.
“What we don’t transform, we transmit.”
– Richard Rohr
We will begin at 3pm on Friday, June 4 and conclude at 1pm on Sunday, June 7. To cultivate trust and containment, participation for the entire weekend is essential.
What’s included
• Two highly trained trauma-informed facilitators, and two grief apprentice space-holders
• 3 nights lodging (at the residential rate)
• Dinner on Friday, breakfast, lunch, and dinner on Saturday; breakfast and lunch on Sunday, plus tea and light snacks throughout the weekend.
For those local to the area, we highly recommend giving yourself the space to stay on location, to be more deeply held within the container we create in our “pop-up village.”
THE INFORMATION BELOW PERTAINS TO LAST SUMMER’S TENDING THE ACHE RETREAT. PRICING, LOCATION INFORMATION AND LODGING/ACCOMMODATIONS WILL BE UPDATED IN THE SPRING.
Pricing and cancellation policy
• $775 staying onsite / $575 camping onsite or commuting
Registration will close July 15 at 5pm or when the retreat fills to capacity.
We recognize that this retreat is priced higher than some of our previous offerings. Tending the Ache is an intimate, immersive experience designed for deep, tender work with the Second Gate of Grief. This retreat brings in various modalities, like parts work, to help soften barriers to self-love, allowing us to tend to the exiled parts of ourselves with care and compassion.
To support this depth of work, we’ve chosen a warm, home-like venue nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains—a space that offers both intimacy and a sense of belonging. Additionally, we are partnering with a local business to provide nourishing, catered meals, so you can be fully supported throughout the weekend.
With a group size of just 20 participants, this retreat allows for a more held and transformative experience. We deeply believe in the value of this offering and look forward to sharing this sacred space with you.
To help protect your investment and offer peace of mind in the case of unexpected changes, we strongly encourage you to consider purchasing travel insurance.
Scholarships: If attending this retreat creates a significant financial hardship and you seek a scholarship or work-study exchange, please apply here. For scholarships, we prioritize applicants from historically marginalized communities, first responders, veterans, those in the helping professions, and students, and may cover 25-50% of tuition. Scholarship applications are due by May 15.
Cancellation Policy: When registering for our retreats and programs, we ask that you are crystal clear on your intentions and commitment and consider your reservation and payment as a wholehearted YES to being here. We understand that things can come up that interrupt plans and schedules, but we also know from experience that when we prioritize this sacred work, we will move heaven and earth to honor our grief’s calling. Spaces to work with grief in community and through ritual are rare in modern western culture. In our retreats, we seek to create a community of shared values and embodied respect for the preciousness of this work.
We do, however, understand that some things fall outside of our control, and to this end we offer the following:
A 50% refund if you need to cancel before May 31 (minus registration fees).
A 25% refund if you need to cancel before June 30 (minus registration fees).
Unfortunately, we are unable to offer refunds come July 1
“Healing comes
when we let ourselves be held
by the love we were once denied.”
– Unknown
About the location
This retreat takes place at the beautiful Samasati Sanctuary, a unique and magical venue nestled on five breathtaking acres in the Blue Ridge Mountains of Weaverville, North Carolina, where winding trails lead through peaceful landscapes and shrines honoring various wisdom and contemplative traditions.
The closest airport to us is Asheville. Charlotte airport is 2 hours away and Greensboro airport is 2.5 hours away. We are happy to help connect folks who might be interested in carpooling from an airport or somewhere else in the region.
Lodging and Accommodations
Samasati offers a mix of indoor and outdoor lodging for up to 14 retreatants, including accommodations in the main house, a cozy cabin, a yome, and designated camping platforms. Single accommodations are very limited, and most rooms will be shared, with shared bathrooms. Retreatants have access to the whole house, which includes a shared kitchen and meditation sunroom, enhancing the warm, home-like atmosphere of the space. Guests are also welcome to unwind in the hot tub on the property.
Lodging options include:
• Three indoor rooms – one room with two single beds; two rooms with three single beds
• One indoor room with a queen bed
• A private outdoor cabin with a single bed
• A yome with a full-size bed
• Camping – two large wooden platforms can accommodate up to two tents each
The cabin, yome, and campers have access to an outhouse and outdoor shower, with the option to use the indoor bathrooms in the main house. Rooms are assigned on a first-come, first-served basis, considering both registration order and gender. Note: Pairs or couples will register separately, but should choose “part of pair or couple” option for a shared tent or accommodations with a shared queen or full-sized bed.
For commuters traveling from outside the Asheville area, there are several affordable Airbnb options in Weaverville.
What to bring
• A water bottle.
• A journal and pen.
• Items for the grief shrine and altars of support that are sacred and symbolic for you.
• Wear comfortable clothes and layers for when we are inside. Temperatures will be quite warm in late August. Please check the weather when you pack.
• Favorite snack(s) and any other creature comforts you may want to nurture yourself.
About your facilitators
Samantha DiRosa, MFA, RYT, is a university professor, yoga instructor, ritualist, and expressive arts facilitator based in Greensboro, North Carolina. She brings 20 years of facilitation and teaching experience in the realm of higher-education, alongside an artist’s sensitivity and depth of insight, to her work with groups. Having trained with Francis Weller, author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow, and Joanna Macy, author of Active Hope, she believes in the power of ritual and ceremony to transmute sorrow and loss into the healing of individuals, communities, and the Earth. Samantha’s beloved teachers also include Daniel Foor, Malidoma Somé, Martín Prechtel, and Linda Thai. She lives with her daughter and her pack of non-human companions in the Piedmont region of North Carolina, the occupied lands of the Keyauwee and Saura peoples. When she is not teaching, she maintains a small private coaching / consulting practice and spends time connecting with her Celtic and Sicilian ancestral roots.
To learn more about Samantha click here.
Summer Estes MA, LCMHC, is a lifelong student passionate about creating transformative spaces. She is a wife, mother, licensed psychotherapist, breath facilitator, Enneagram teacher, mystic, inquisitive seeker, intuitive healer, soul activist, and founder of Embodied-Intelligence. Summer integrates perennial wisdom teachings with contemplative, somatic, and mindfulness practices, engaging in the practice of inquiry as a student of A.H. Almaas Diamond Approach. She loves facilitating learning and healing environments where participants can connect with what is alive and authentic within.
With over 18 years of experience in leading workshops, groups, and retreats in the healing arts, Summer has served on the faculty of The Second Breath Center, a wisdom school in Greensboro, NC. She is drawn to embodied wisdom and has delved into teachings of embodiment experts, indigenous wisdom, and breathwork. Summer’s journey has been enriched by diverse teachers and writings of mystics from various traditions, shaping her understanding and approach to her work. Some of her teachers include, Francis Weller, Dr. Tara Brach, Malidoma Somé, Rev. Cynthia Bourgeault, and Dr. Gabor Mate.
To learn more about Summer click here and to read her statement on grief-tending click here.
Statement on Diversity and Inclusivity
As facilitators, our intention is to create an inclusive space that honors all cultures and ethnicities. However, as white-bodied, cisgender women, we recognize the privilege and systemic advantages inherent in our identities and recognize that the racial lenses and gendered systems that have shaped our experiences and perspectives differ significantly from those of BIPOC individuals. We are dedicated to actively listening, learning, and unlearning, and we are committed to ongoing growth as facilitators in this area. May our collective grief cry serve as a catalyst for change and liberation, as we work towards dismantling oppressive systems and creating a world where all beings can thrive.
On cultural appropriation and ritual work:
In our work, we approach any rituals, songs, or practices from non-dominant cultures with deep respect and gratitude. They have been shared and gifted with blessings to aid in our collective healing. We are committed to acknowledging and honoring the sources of these practices, recognizing the responsibility that comes with engaging with them.
Covid policy
Masking is optional, but discouraged given the nature of this work where we all rely on non-verbal cues to communicate and find safety. We do not request vaccination or testing prior to arrival. However if you are symptomatic within ten days prior to the program start date we ask that you please ensure that you are not contagious before arriving. This is a self-monitoring agreement and we trust in your personal integrity. Thank you.
Risk Disclosure Statement
Know that:
• Participation is voluntary.
• You may choose your level of engagement at all times.
• These activities do not replace therapy, counseling, or medical care.
• Individuals with a history of significant trauma, complex grief, PTSD, or medical/mental health conditions are encouraged to consult with a healthcare provider before attending.
Potential risks include, but are not limited to:
• Emotional discomfort, grief activation, or triggering memories
• Minor physical strain or fatigue from movement or ritual activities
• Exposure to natural elements (weather, uneven terrain, etc.)
• Interaction with other participants’ emotional expression, which may feel challenging
• Sensory experiences such as smoke, sound, or ritual materials
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